“The pain generated by starting a person and carrying a few months and cutting is because you cut in the high”

Psychologist Elizabeth Clapés explains why we are so left with a person you have been knowing for a short time

Breaking a relationship always hurts, but when we have been knowing someone for a few months, the emotional impact can be much stronger than expected. This is explained by the psychologist Elizabeth Clapés (@esmipsicology) In their social networks and podcast @taycomosomos.podcastwho points out that these types of ruptures generate more intense pain because they usually occur at the time of greater emotional intensity.

According to the expert, when a relationship ends In the initial phasehe does it in full “Upon”that period in which the idealization of the other person is at its highest point. “If the person leaves you right at that time you are completely above, you end up plumping and thinking that you just lost the love of your life.”

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Idealize the other person

On the other hand, when a break occurs later, the emotional blow is usually different. At this point, both the positive and negative aspects of the relationship have already been lived, which allows relativize loss better. “When you have already seen the good and the bad, you stop idealization,” explains the creator of content.

In this way, the psychologist invites us to understand that it does not always hurt to leave a couple of years than to break after a few months. The key is in the intensity of the idealized link and at the time of the process in which separation occurs.

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To face this type of rupture, experts recommend Accept emotional duel without trying to repress itrely on the close environment and avoid immediate contact with the ex -partner so as not to feed the idealization. It is also useful focus on personal activitieshobbies and self -care, which allows recovering the feeling of control and strengthening self -esteem. Remember that The initial pain is part of the process and that over time fadeshelps to put into perspective the loss and build healthier future relationships.